Only a few marital conflicts cause as much pain and frustration as cheating and infidelity which weakens the marriage foundation itself.
Still, regardless of the situation, when both parties agree to commit and focus on genuine healing, most marriages can survive.
Couples who choose to mend their marriage can even come out stronger with deeper affection towards each other. Why affairs happen is no longer the question but how to overcome the consequences that come from such situations.
If you’re, by any chance, into a secret affair with someone and you want to end it right away, here are some principles that can help you get out of the situation.
Step out of the affair
The first thing to do in order to end an affair is to step out from it. Talk to your “other” if you must, and be honest about your intention to save your marriage.
Proper closure can help minimize the problems that may arise later on.
Admit your mistake
It takes a lot of guts and courage to admit that you’re wrong. However, if you feel that the situation is weighing down on your shoulders, admit it and talk to your partner about it.
This may have serious consequences which is why it is important to choose your words carefully. Remember that being honest and sincere can save you from being haunted by your mistakes in the long run.
Focus on what matters most
Find your focus and identify your priorities again. If you must, start from a clean slate. This depends entirely on how severe the damages are caused by your affair.
Some affairs have a way of ending naturally without leaving permanent damages to a marriage. However, some are devastating enough to weaken the relationship.
Therefore, it is important to focus on what matters most so you can identify your starting point in saving your marriage. This could be your spouse, your kids, your home, career or finances.
Find ways to make up for your mistake
Commit to make up for your mistakes. Getting into an affair is a serious form of deception. Therefore, you must vow to find ways to save your marriage and regain your partner’s trust and to rebuild your home.
Depending on the severity of your mistake, you might need to make extra efforts and create certain adjustments in order to strengthen your relationship once again.
Remember that you are more than your mistakes and there’s always an opportunity to change for the better. However, you must vow not to fall trap into temptation again.
After ending an affair and going back to your partner, forgiving yourself goes hand in hand with several realizations.
It is just as important to commit not to do it again, to fix any damages that the affair might have caused, and to make up for your mistake.
Once you realize and commit to all of these, only then can you truly deserve peace and eventually find your way towards forgiving yourself.